[Rant] KNN totally wasted my time and effort

[mazatsushi]

Been dating this girl for nearly a year. Treated her nicely, sometimes playful, sometimes flirty, sometimes suggestive. Had a good amount of chemistry between us.

But warning signs started appearing.

During one date she replied ”我不觉得我们正在交往“ to one random comment moi made. Sian 1/2.

Couple of days ago, told her that if moi is lucky to get employed in Japan after upcoming interview, moi willing to wait for her 'til she comes over. Her reply was “你不需要等，我是不会去日本的”

Then and there moi suggested “在我身边一起闯世界吧”. Her reply? “我才不要，一点都不安全”.

From that instant, moi know this kind of girl is DO NOT WANT

Now is just feeling angry with moiself why so stupid go waste the time and effort on her.

Sorry for the rant bros. Just had to get it off my chest some way or another.

[Beachsea]

intro me the girl la...

TEST water...you will know more

[wanderer23]

Originally Posted by mazatsushi

Been dating this girl for nearly a year. Treated her nicely, sometimes playful, sometimes flirty, sometimes suggestive. Had a good amount of chemistry between us.

But warning signs started appearing.

During one date she replied ”我不觉得我们正在交往“ to one random comment moi made. Sian 1/2.

Couple of days ago, told her that if moi is lucky to get employed in Japan after upcoming interview, moi willing to wait for her 'til she comes over. Her reply was “你不需要等，我是不会去日本的”

Then and there moi suggested “在我身边一起闯世界吧”. Her reply? “我才不要，一点都不安全”.

From that instant, moi know this kind of girl is DO NOT WANT

Now is just feeling angry with moiself why so stupid go waste the time and effort on her.

Sorry for the rant bros. Just had to get it off my chest some way or another.

Wow bro took you one whole year to find out?

[Apocalypse]

Originally Posted by wanderer23

Wow bro took you one whole year to find out?

Do the french use moiself?

[Dirtyboy76]

At least now u found out better then u found out after commitment is made..

[wolflust]

Ya finding out early is always better than late.

[Apocalypse]

You played the game wrongly

You surrendered your power to her, and made her dominant over you.
You should always suggest that she is not so important, so when u say you going japan, she will say "yes! I wana go" before you finish saying

[delayer]

there's a book by the name "not that into you" a great read. suddenly i realize all my old mistakes and also taking up hints of the "ifs" he/she is really into you or not.

[turty008]

delayer remember the author of that book? Think I need to look at it too

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by mazatsushi

Been dating this girl for nearly a year. Treated her nicely, sometimes playful, sometimes flirty, sometimes suggestive. Had a good amount of chemistry between us.

Is she a "proper" girl? Just trying to clarify to get the context
Sounds like she's a PRC?

Anyway, what took you so long to find out she's not into you?
Maybe it's only recently she changed her mind going long with you... so don't be too upset about wasting the 1 year.

[soccerboot]

Bro, I think you played the game wrongly! If you let a woman feel you can be a friend on 1st 2 dates then you are gone! You need to show and prove to her you are the man for her. It will takes you 33th dates to change her mindset if she think you can only be friend! I used to be a dickhead in dating, kana rejected so many times! Now much better! I learn, I apply, I change and I conquer! Not to worry, better ones are still lurking around! Cheers!

[Happy555]

By the 3rd date the girl dun allow to do anything, ask her go f.o liaoz

[peanut123]

IMHO, you didn't waste your time. For that one year, you had her companionship, so just take it as if you were spending that time with a good friend.

And for that one year, she lost 1 year of her youth to you. 1 year of a woman's youth is more precious than a man's, so you got the better half of the bargain.

And lastly, you found out what works and what does not work with a woman. It's info that you can use on your next girl

Originally Posted by mazatsushi

Been dating this girl for nearly a year. Treated her nicely, sometimes playful, sometimes flirty, sometimes suggestive. Had a good amount of chemistry between us.

But warning signs started appearing.

During one date she replied ”我不觉得我们正在交往“ to one random comment moi made. Sian 1/2.

Couple of days ago, told her that if moi is lucky to get employed in Japan after upcoming interview, moi willing to wait for her 'til she comes over. Her reply was “你不需要等，我是不会去日本的”

Then and there moi suggested “在我身边一起闯世界吧”. Her reply? “我才不要，一点都不安全”.

From that instant, moi know this kind of girl is DO NOT WANT

Now is just feeling angry with moiself why so stupid go waste the time and effort on her.

Sorry for the rant bros. Just had to get it off my chest some way or another.

[frivolous_ami]

TS,

You are not alone. I also went through the same. Same sentiments.

After chase 3 mths, i sian liao. Hand hold a bit, but cannot hold. Then, her friends also dunno who. She keep saying we are together liao. No fark n no kiss. First mth want buy clothes, 2nd mth say want new hp. 6 mth later want me to be a guarantor.....

Better still, each time i want to leave, she want me to stay and hold me emotional hostage. And, I felt obligated to be good to her cos her ex treated her like dirt.

It didn't take long before I found out that she was still with her ex. They still went out. She kept lying about it. So, what to do.... I am not a saint. Eventually, also sian. I told her again and again.

Any other guy will also dulan. Dun say sian, no mood also. Over that 1 over year, how many things i did. Buy this and buy that. When I was almost going broke, she only tell me "Go do more part time lah". But, wait... everytime, she still ask to go eat at restaurant or cafe.

Wtf, rite? Thats life. My folks advised me "treat it as paying for a lesson". Sigh..... Now, I use my spare cash go buy stocks also can see some $$. My bank account still more zeros.

Lagi better, after 1 year, her facebook still put status "single". Plus, still cannot hold hand and cannot kiss and cannot fark. She think she very holy. But, wait, she already kena f by dunno how many guys before. Can tell me want to keep "it" for marriage, but still want to keep secret about seeing ex. wtf.... Hold hand also cannot. Want me to be guarantor also dun let me (at least) have a meet the folks session. At least, if going to get con, I also know who. :X Super big con job, now I think back.......

Sometimes, people still ask "why dun find a girl?" My reply is, why work and slave for a stranger? Before courtship, already stranger. After divorce, also stranger leh. Same like a pro, haven't bonk already a stranger. After bonk, also stranger.

[InternetPimp]

Originally Posted by frivolous_ami

Want me to be guarantor also

This is a never for anyone, not even best friend