Divorce settlement data - WC education thread

[Hunkydunky]

Originally Posted by iluvbreast

I see, so if I am not wrong, then your wife (through her lawyer) would have presented a case to the judge that:
1. She should be have most of care & control since she has always be primary care giver.
2. She have problem (after divorcing since she needed to continue caring for your child) and need to re-enter work force.
3. Whereas you are doing relatively well because you are running your own business.

In essence, your 1.1K was actually maintenance your child even though your ex has full custody (something I don't understand, did you gave that up or was it care & control that she have?)

Only thing I don't get is why have to pay for her lawyer, this is something very out of character but then again, sometimes strange things happened.

I feel that somehow her lawyer is trying his luck. And bingo he got it. Ex wife clap hands no need to pay lawyer. If it's not norm, then shouldn't pay. Check with own lawyer.

[Hunkydunky]

Originally Posted by Beretta

Divorce proceedings have changed drastically from 10 years ago. The procedures are so different now from years ago that even lawyers themselves who were out of the scene for just a few years find themselves lost and not sure what to do now.

That's why must find experience ones.

BTW, I got a feeling female lawyers will tend to side wife more.

My wife ever throw me a letter... I got 2 kids... each kid she wants $1500...which makes $3000 monthly. My take home pay all go to kids liao. I no need to eat.

I go see lawyer.. female lawyer.. told her my situation.. and my income level. She said $1500 per kid is reasonable. Wtf!

[fallen11]

Originally Posted by Hunkydunky

That's why must find experience ones.

BTW, I got a feeling female lawyers will tend to side wife more.

My wife ever throw me a letter... I got 2 kids... each kid she wants $1500...which makes $3000 monthly. My take home pay all go to kids liao. I no need to eat.

I go see lawyer.. female lawyer.. told her my situation.. and my income level. She said $1500 per kid is reasonable. Wtf!

my sibling was like your case.
But his ex wife demanded 3k maintainance + 1.5k for their only kid.
it was even more than his take home pay.
In the end, judge settle for no maintainence + $1k a month for the kid.

Another friend got 2 kids. His take home pay slightly higher than yours.
The ex wife demanded too much: the whole flat (which she paid $0), $1k maintainance + $1k each per kid.
Judge also settled for no maintainence + $600 per kid

Is $1.5k per kid a month reasonable? That depends on your family income level and lifestyle during marriage.
For someone with $2k household income, $600 per kid may not be reasonable.
For someone with at least $6k income, $1.5k per kid is probably reasonable.
Dont just follow what your lawyer says. You engage lawyer to fight case for you, not to surrender in court for you.
Find another lawyer.

[Hunkydunky]

Originally Posted by fallen11

my sibling was like your case.
But his ex wife demanded 3k maintainance + 1.5k for their only kid.
it was even more than his take home pay.
In the end, judge settle for no maintainence + $1k a month for the kid.

Another friend got 2 kids. His take home pay slightly higher than yours.
The ex wife demanded too much: the whole flat (which she paid $0), $1k maintainance + $1k each per kid.
Judge also settled for no maintainence + $600 per kid

Is $1.5k per kid a month reasonable? That depends on your family income level and lifestyle during marriage.
For someone with $2k household income, $600 per kid may not be reasonable.
For someone with at least $6k income, $1.5k per kid is probably reasonable.
Dont just follow what your lawyer says. You engage lawyer to fight case for you, not to surrender in court for you.
Find another lawyer.

Thanks for your advice.

In the end, lawyers are the happy ones.

[Xgenre]

If you cannot pay maintenance in future, do the guys go to jail? I think may go to jail these days right? Better fight all the way on maintenance matters. Go to jail may affect your future employment chances.

[Hunkydunky]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

If you cannot pay maintenance in future, do the guys go to jail? I think may go to jail these days right? Better fight all the way on maintenance matters. Go to jail may affect your future employment chances.

If marriage broke down leading to unable to pay maintenance and leading to go jail...i think many guys will not get married to disadvantage themselves.

Because if marriage breaks down... guys are the ones in losing end. Must think very hard before signing the papers.

[HonkyTonkyMan]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

If you cannot pay maintenance in future, do the guys go to jail? I think may go to jail these days right? Better fight all the way on maintenance matters. Go to jail may affect your future employment chances.

yes, the ex has to apply to court and court will find you in contempt and send you to do jail time..... and the missed payment still have to be paid even though you serve time for not paying..plus interest

but last time lawyer told me got some hardcore cases, die die don't want to pay prefer jail time kena a few times until court bo bian tell ex give leeway, force them also they cannot pay..

[Hunkydunky]

Originally Posted by HonkyTonkyMan

yes, the ex has to apply to court and court will find you in contempt and send you to do jail time..... and the missed payment still have to be paid even though you serve time for not paying..plus interest

but last time lawyer told me got some hardcore cases, die die don't want to pay prefer jail time kena a few times until court bo bian tell ex give leeway, force them also they cannot pay..

Yah man.. no money how to pay, right? If guy bear grudges, likely don't work on purpose or work part time just to get minimal enough to survive yet not enough to pay maintenance. What can the ex do?

[JacqueMerlin]

Originally Posted by HonkyTonkyMan

yes, the ex has to apply to court and court will find you in contempt and send you to do jail time..... and the missed payment still have to be paid even though you serve time for not paying..plus interest

but last time lawyer told me got some hardcore cases, die die don't want to pay prefer jail time kena a few times until court bo bian tell ex give leeway, force them also they cannot pay..

I cannot understand, since they feel that their ex husband is a scoundrel, why prolong the difficulties and make it harder for the children by demainding money from their ex? Is revenge so sweet and intoxicating that they forget the cost and toll it have on the children?

[HonkyTonkyMan]

Originally Posted by JacqueMerlin

I cannot understand, since they feel that their ex husband is a scoundrel, why prolong the difficulties and make it harder for the children by demainding money from their ex? Is revenge so sweet and intoxicating that they forget the cost and toll it have on the children?

hard to say but most of the times, this families are really broken families mainly from the lower income type...husband are typically not working etc..

[raefear]

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[raefear]

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[iluvbreast]

Originally Posted by raefear

Hi Bro, could you pls PM me your Lawyer's contact.

PM me if you want to ask, don't be rude and hijack other people's thread.

[raefear]

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[Genetic]

"Marital property: (sold and split proceeds, or given to wife): Sold my share (determined in accordance to the ratio we paid) of the property to my ex-wife."


I like to ask, if (Prior to marriage), the husband owned a fully-paid property (either he very high earning, or his parents very wealthy and transfer a property to his name in full).......
When divorce happen, what will happen to this property? Does he have to give up half to the wife?